January 05, 2009

RESEARCH

Women who aborted a child have a greater chance of having a post-partum depression with difficulty bonding in a subsequent pregnancy. (Klaus MH, Kennell JH. Maternal Infant Bonding, CV Mosby, 1976. Colman AD, Colman LL.  Pregnancy: The Psychological Experience, Herder and Herder, New York, 1971.)
 
In a Dec. 1998 interview published by Priests For Life, Dr. Philip Ney, a Canadian Psychiatrist referred to his research on the link between parental bonding and abortion, “Sadly enough, statistically speaking and I have to say this very carefully, statistically speaking women who have had abortions are less likely to bond to their children, and therefore these children are more likely to be abused and neglected. Also, women who were abused and neglected as children are more likely to have abortions. And I can tell you that wherever I have said this, in whatever kind of an audience, people have become really quite upset, sometimes very angry. But I think I can say that having done the research now over a number of years and published a number of papers, that that is a statistically significant connection.” 
 
There is a clear statistical association between increased rates of abortion and increased rates of child abuse. Indeed, statistical and clinical research support not only an association, but a causal connection between abortion and subsequent child abuse.
Ney, P. Fung, T., Wickett, A.R., "Relationship Between Induced Abortion and Child Abuse and Neglect: Four Studies," Pre- and Perinatal Psychology Journal 8(1):43-63 Fall 1993; Benedict, M., White, R., and Cornely, P., "Maternal Perinatal Risk Factors and Child Abuse" Child Abuse and Neglect 9:217-224 (1985); Lewis, E., "Two Hidden Predisposing Factors in Child Abuse," Child Abuse and Neglect 3:327-330 (1979); Ney, P., "Relationship Between Abortion and Child Abuse," Canadian J. Psychiatry 24:610-620(1979). 
 
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MOLLY

When I was a growing up I dreamed of having ten children. That’s right, TEN. I loved children, especially babies. I wanted to marry a farmer live in a huge farm house and raise a family. I loved children so much that I started babysitting when I was 13 years old and continued babysitting all the way through my first two years in college. Legal abortion shattered my dreams and deeply affected my parenting abilities. 

After my first abortion I could no longer be around children. I avoided babies. I didn’t want to be around pregnant women. Even in that turmoil I had an uncontrollable desire to get pregnant again and, I did within two years. This time, I thought, I will do it right. When my son was born I had a very hard time bonding with him. I loved him I just could not connect emotionally. My maternal nurturing instinct had been deeply damaged by blood guilt. I suffered from deep guilt, shame, damaged self-worth, depression, suicidal thoughts, and anxiety. All of these symptoms negatively impacted my parenting abilities. It took 23 years for me to realize that I loved my son, based on unresolved guilt. That is not healthy love.

I suffered physically as well. Cervical damage resulted in having to deliver my living children by C-section. I am convinced that uterine scarring and damage from my abortions led to two still-born births, a miscarriage, and a hysterectomy.

I was responsible for the deaths of two of my children. That was too much to bear, so I lived in denial for 13 years, desperately trying to get my life “back to normal.” Keeping up this facade took a toll on my psychological and emotional well-being. I plummeted into depression, and death wooed me with thoughts of suicide.

I have never regretted being a mother;I will always regret choosing abortion.

How Recovery Helped

When I entered into an abortion recovery program I was still in denial that I had suffered from my abortion decisions in any way.  On my second week of the program I could no longer deny the deep pain, sorrow and regret I had stuffed deep down inside for years.  Going through abortion recovery and the steps to healing, grieving and forgiving was the single most important thing I have ever done for myself, my husband and my children.  I did not realize how my “woundedness” had an effect on my family and other relationships.  A healed woman has a healed family and my family and I are now a strong, healthy and healed family because of abortion recovery.

You can read more about Molly's victorious life and ministry.

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